Why Are You So Angry? (Blame Mars)
Mars and how it relates to anger in your birth chart
What’s poppin? It’s your girl Christydabull, your local Taurus coming with another post for the girls that get mad real quick. If you’re new to my content, take some time to read through my work and heavily consider following (or subscribing) to my Substack for more Astrology content. I’m also accepting Anonymous Astrology questions for my column that I will be responding to on the monthly basis, so do keep your eyes out for the scoop. You are able to ask me any astrology question that you want; Spill the tea, or keep it simple, either way, your question will get answered in some sort of fashion. I highly advise you to describe me some scenarios that you want to look into more, in an advice column style, but if you just have astro questions, that is perfectly fine as well. Here is the link to the form and now…Let’s jump into the post now, shall we?
Anger is a tough subject.
On one hand, I think I’m a pretty chill person.
On the other hand, people think I have aggressive tendencies.
Are you aggressive if it goes away quickly?
In short, yes you are, I say to myself, but I also don’t even think I am.
Maybe I need to reframe the word aggressive in my mind, as it sounds like the world’s most evil thing to be in my head.
Am I supposed to just stand on it? I am aggressive, but I mean no harm?
That doesn’t make a lick of sense to me.
To clarify, I’m not a violent person. I will not resort to putting my hands on someone unless it’s in defense.
But my mouth is entirely too loud. I’m really good at utilizing my words to get a point across or get a desired effect.
Loud to the point that my mom would knock on my door at 2am and say that I am screaming, when I feel like I’m talking normally.
I think it’s a hearing thing, almost too, I’m not hard of hearing, but it’s hard to hear.
This is why I think I don’t make any sense. I’m sure it’s a processing issue and a confidence issue.
So as i’ve been looking at how to personally evaluate how anger shows up in my life, naturally I want to look at the astrology and how it shows up in my birth chart.
I’ll personally do an introspection on my Aries Mercury and my Scorpio Mars. Maybe this will help you guys explore the theme of anger in your own birth chart.
REMEMBER: To look for Anger in your own birth chart, all roads lead to Mars. Anger is an accumulation of many different emotions, such as being irked, irritated, irate, etc.
Now, the reason why I picked those two signs specifically is because Mars does its best in the signs of Aries and Scorpio. Take note that wherever the signs Aries and Scorpio are in your chart is your connection to the topic of anger.
You’re going to look specifically for Mars in your chart, which doesn’t have to be in Aries and Scorpio; however, the houses that those signs are in are going to help you connect more information about your Mars.
Example:
Let’s say you have a Mars in Cancer in the 4H, well it may be harder for you to control or express your emotions in a conductive way therefore; way more people may be collateral damage as a result of your anger. This is the type of anger that reflects, meaning projection can be clear here. This also could manifest as issues within the home/family. Aries would be the 1H based on where Mars is, which means a lot of this stems from self, whether you are expressing your own agency and your family doesn’t like that or the way that you do it. Then we would look for Scorpio, which would be the 8H. This could show up of having to sacrifice items/money/possessions in order to help/provide for family, which also is a source of your anger/irritation. This is all to point out how your Aries/Scorpio houses help you understand your sources of anger.
Aries vs Scorpio
I like to break the signs down by their basic forms. Aries is a cardinal (initiative) sign, with fire as its element, but is symbolized by The Ram.
I have a post about Aries already on my substack; however, you can read that on your own time!
The Ram is known for head butting, taking the charge to push forward until it hits its head on another Ram, an enemy, or even an occasional wall.
Aries as a sign literally takes charge like the Ram does, it approaches events head on, and doesn’t necessarily think all the way through. Doesn’t mean that Aries doesn’t have signs of intelligence, it just means occasionally there is some short sightedness going on.
(Firm believer of the concept: “It goes both ways” just as Aries can be shortsighted, I have a lot of experiences where people are shortsighted in their approach to me)
When we add Mercury in the equation, this energy can go into conversations, how our words are communicated with other people.
For me, personally I am quick to respond, am I necessarily listening sometimes? No. Do I sometimes think before I speak? Nope, the words just fly out.
This is where I like to call attention to duality, because just as I can be like this, I still have Sun-Saturn in the 3H. If I were to speak in front of a class to unpack my project, I’m going to be stressed, the playful energy is gone, I am not quiet and fumbling my words. Those Aries Mercury moments are suited for when I’m fuel’d by passion, anger, or just even playfulness.
My Mars is in Scorpio. Scorpio is a fixed water sign represented by the Scorpion itself. You know that Scorpions are underground, cold dark places type of dwellers? They don’t necessarily want to be seen, they are small and have only so much to defend itself.
Slight tangent but I promise it’s relevant…let me bring up another water sign… Cancer. Cancer’s are represented by Crabs, and honestly we know that if Crabs use their pinchers, it’s going to hurt; yet, Crabs are pretty cool. I don’t think people are necessarily afraid of crabs, especially the smaller ones, but maybe more curious in its methods. The point is, the crabs on the beach you see aren’t really going to terrify you or make you afraid, hell you might even get hungry (shout out to my seafood lovers; I see you).
But if you find a Scorpion, you are going to have a different reaction. Now, some may be intrigued, some may be afraid that they’re going to perish if they get too close, but overall the Scorpion wants to be left alone. That’s why it rather hides and if someone or a predator tries it, they will surely feel the wrath of that sting and hopefully leave that Scorpion alone. The Scorpion is more defensive, paranoid, looking for a way out, and resorting to violence when they are forced to.
That is the difference between Aries and Scorpio….Mars is domicile in both signs, but those two signs are quincunx to each other.
Don’t know what a quincunx is? Well, Professor Christy is here to step in.
A quincunx is when two planets are not at a compatible angle with each other, we can say they don’t “see” each other, although if you were sitting at a table, you would see that person still, you just don’t have direct access to them and have to go through hoops to talk to them or get their attention. Even if you get the opportunity to speak with that person, you are just two completely different people, you cannot relate on most topics.
So if Aries was rising in the birth chart, then Scorpio would be the 8H in that chart. Your quincunx’s are going to be the 6H & 8H if you look at the ASC, and naturally, if you focus another house like the 4H you would know that then because the 10H opposes the 4H then the 9H & 11H are quincunx to the 4H.
Alrighty back to our regularly scheduled program.
Breaking it Down
What I want to do is break down these placements in my chart to help me explain my anger more fluidly, what does it relate to and what can I possibly do to work with or recognize the behavior/patterns. What triggers me, what doesn’t, etc. Hopefully this will help you guys reading this break down how you express anger by using this method for your own chart.
Anger is related specifically to Mars; therefore, if you have a planet in a Mars ruled sign (Aries, Scorpio) consider that planet and the aspect it makes to your Mars. For example: If you have a Scorpio Moon, you better examine that Scorpio moon and its aspects.
With usage of the essential dignity system, which you can familiarize yourself with in my last post, it will help you understand the strengths and downfalls of how your anger can manifest.
Aries Mercury at 8°
In order to examine the Mercury, I want to break down the condition of Mars, as Aries is a co-ruler of Mars…which we find Mars in Scorpio (the other co-ruler) in my 9H. The 9H relates to your strides outside of the basics. In grade school, you are taught basic skills in which you will make a choice to further develop those skills and/or learn the depth behinds those skills. The 9H is the development after those basic skills were learned.
A part of me growing up, even to the present, has involved disruptions to those skills I want to learn and engage in. Often times, the subject of my interest becomes a point of conflict, which fully angers, irks, or upsets my soul. It’s the disregard for me 🙄
Let’s not forget, it’s in its Domicile; however Retrograde, it doesn’t prevent me from doing, and succeeding (most of the time). It irks me, but it doesn’t stop me, just might make me contemplate or reevaluate what my actions should be. This sometimes can come off as me being doubtful on whether I can actually commit to action.
My Aries Mercury itself does not have dignity, making it peregrine. The way this manifests for me is that I don’t actually understand what I’m arguing, or even mad about at the moment. This isn’t to say that I go into arguments blind, it’s more like…mid argument I forget the point. I can have a comeback naturally, but I end up thinking too hard, which is counterproductive to me. Honestly, it’s best if I don’t think too hard because it can flow off the tongue, I just like being accurate when I talk. Yes, this is a huge source of frustration because a lot of people also will act as if they do not understand what I’m saying when I personally feel as though I’m being very clear. It’s the blunt approach that turns people off from what I’m actually saying.
Since Mercury is at 8°, I can look to see what bound my Mercury falls in to deliver a couple more layers to it.
Mercury is in a Venus bound, which can bring the kindness or cheerfulness to the Mercury that holds no innate direction. I’m sure this is why I don’t like to argue much, preferring to keep motions at ease, however since Mars is the overseer, I’m constantly placed in situations that are hostile. That fact, irks my soul, people not knowing how to handle conflict resolution makes me absolutely upset. Especially when I’m trying to work it out, and all I’m met with is visceral reactions.
Mercury is in the Mars decan, which introduces the uniqueness of how I’m able to communicate my ideals with other people. When I speak, you’re not going to confuse me for someone else, you will hear me talk, however the struggle comes not from the voice, but trusting my own voice. It’s hard to not get frustrated when people don’t understand me all the way the first time…it’s easy to feel dejected when you can hear me roar but still not understand what the point of it is…it does make me fall on the anger spectrum, but it also provokes feelings of sadness.
Let’s move on to my Scorpio Mars at 3°
We’ve already discussed Mars and what it does for me in my chart. A huge source of my anger comes from the doubt people instill into me, the implication that I’m not good enough. A great example of this was when I actually was in middle school and I was applying for this private school for high school. Anyway, this girl was also applying to schools, but not the one I was applying to. She had asked me where I was going and I told her. Her face had turned and she started laughing, stating that I could never get into a school like that. So naturally that made me mad, even though I knew I was going to get into the school. It’s the fact that you really underestimate me that much because you know that you aren’t capable of exceeding on that level, to the point you didn’t even try. So, fast forward, I did get into the high school and graduated from there. There’s this natural doubt that people have towards me and my ability to learn and do; and honestly, it’s taught me to always doubt myself. Big SIGH.
Mars is in the bound and decan of Mars; which can show that I tend to get upset easily because it is Mars that we are talking about. Scorpio mars is strategic and knowledgeable, it seeks to understand the workings of people or events because there is power into knowing. Being on guard is a reason why it can be easy to stir me off the edge because I’ve had experiences with people that I don’t want to deal with ever again. A lot of frustration is developed out of this, but still I’m able to proceed and do what I need to do. My Mars is honestly flourishing aside from the fact that it is retrograde and opposing Sun-Saturn. There is just a big need to defend myself as a person and not let other people overtake me in that aspect.
I happen to have my Mars placements interacting with the Mars ruled signs anyway, but for everyone’s chart this is going to look different. You should familiarize yourself with what the planets mean in order to understand what it means when your Mars is in a specific bound or term. I’m going to include a chart wheel so you can understand the houses and their fundamental meanings when you’re looking for what house Aries and Scorpio is in. If your Mars is in the 11H, well then it’s going to focus on social groups and your goals based on what the 11H discusses. You can also refer to some of my posts on the houses; i’m not completely done that series, but I should have a few house posts on the blog.
What Did We Learn Here?
Honestly, when I wrote this post, I didn’t understand how tough it was going to be facing my own sources of anger. It hits too hard, I actually got a bit sad; however, I find this to be a good thing. It’s me recognizing a pattern that i’ve spotted but not been able to explain very well; so hopefully I can get some of you guys to do the same if you’re having anger issues that you’re unsure of how to deal with. #1 step to anything is recognition, so now I have to take some time to mitigate or maybe just be easier with myself as I work through this process.
Maybe I do have to work on not being so damn defensive about everything. Maybe I need to actually learn how to distinguish against an attack vs a joke. I have to learn how to stop being scared of my strength and even my anger. It’s a process though.
Now, even though I unpacked some of my life for you guys; now it’s my turn to help some of y’all out. If a few people are interested in doing this method, but are a bit unsure of how to interpret or translate this, you can always hit me up in the comments.Thank you all for reading, and I will catch you later; I don’t know why it took me so long to write this post, but I got it done…now to start planning for the next one.
